Restarting my life. Literally.

2008 May 13
by Paul O'Flaherty

This may be the hardest post I have ever written.

The post, to those who know me well, may explain much, but it is really for myself. I’ve deliberately left details out ,as they will come in the future, when the two conditions of the subject matter not hurting so much and me having permission to talk about it are fulfilled.

It may be short but for me contains so much emotion, sadness, pain, love, hopefulness and the bright promise of a new beginning.

In a few hours I leave Denmark.

I fly to Ireland to start again. To become a better and stronger person and to follow my heart.

I leave behind almost every thing. Some precious, some mundane, but all of them part of my life. All of which have shaped me and I’ve been so grateful for each and every one of them.

I leave behind my wife, my adoptive Danish family, my friends, my home, my life.

Thank you for all the kindness, love and support you’ve shown me. For sticking with me when times were bad.

This may not be the most fathomable of choices but please understand that this is not a decision arrived at lightly or rashly.

It is something I need to do. To grow, to be better and in order to be true to myself.

Not making to make this move would cause more hurt to those I care about than the path I have chosen.

I need to do this or I am not the Paul O’Flaherty that any of you know and I fear that if I remain here, without doing this, I will cease to be the same man.

It’s time for a new start. A new chance at life. A new hope.

It’s time for me to reboot.

Wish me luck.

17 Responses leave one →
  1. May 13, 2008

    damn man on one level I am really sorry to hear this and on another I wish you the best.

  2. May 13, 2008

    I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! Best of luck! : ]

  3. May 13, 2008

    Will be thinking of you, it takes a brave man to face up to his life, all will be fine but you already know that x

  4. amanda permalink
    May 13, 2008

    Sometimes a little reboot does a body good. Besides, It’s better to take the step then wonder what would have happened if you did!! :)

  5. May 13, 2008

    I echo the above man. But you already know that. I wish you all the best, both you and *fat-assed bitch*.

  6. May 13, 2008

    It take a strong man to make the decisions you have made…a very strong man. Having made the same decisions years ago I know the sorry these changes cause.
    So, here’s to your health my friend, because you will need it, and for the luck that tomorrow will only bring, because you will need it also.
    …if someone famous said that, I will say it is a quote, if not, then it is my feelings exactly.
    Chin up and best of luck.

  7. May 14, 2008

    Paul,
    Good Luck to you in your endeavors, Good, Bad, and not so ugly!
    Oddly,
    Cameron

  8. May 14, 2008

    Paul,

    I would like to wish you luck with your move to Ireland. Believe me I understand how difficult this may be. This past year has been one of the most difficult of my life. I have had my ups and my downs. Have meet many wonderful people along this crazy and fantastic journey. One of them happens to be you. Keep your chin up and reach for the stars my friend. Keep it real. You need help! Shoot me an email!

    Respectfully,

    Leonard Libitz

    TheLeetGeeks dot com – wirelesspacket, 4four1ones, Bluefox, Datalore, and Dano

  9. May 15, 2008

    @Everybody.. thank you all for your kind words and support. I’m here in Ireland now, for the time being and a looking forward to seeing where life takes me.

    I will post with an update soon. Once I get settled in :)

  10. Azhrei permalink
    May 15, 2008

    Really sorry to hear that Paul. Give me a call sometime this week, I’m working every day until next Saturday, but my evenings are free.

  11. Erich Hegenberger permalink
    May 16, 2008

    Call any time, also if I can help from my location.

  12. May 16, 2008

    “Progress is impossible without change; and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything….” From another Irishman – George Bernard Shaw.

    All the best Paul. Ireland now rocks!

  13. January 1, 2009

    Phoenix Rising…..you have vision and passion.I wish you the best in all your future endeavours.

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