Life is a funny old thing. It really is. Some people blame life for everything. Some just accept it. It’s how we take the cards that are dealt to us in life and use them which separates us from each other.
For an old cynic like me it’s easy to sit back and make scathing commentaries on life and people. It just so happens that tonight I’m in the mood to.
In my experience there are 3 main types of people, or even bloggers if you want to make that comparison (of course there a shades of gray in between, but for arguments sake lets say there are 3.)
- Some people just exist. They plough through monotonously day by day, going through the same old, same old. They never look back on what yesterday was and they never expect a better tomorrow.
They can often be found bemoaning things, or simply lacking the luster to move forward in any direction. Finding 5 cents under the couch when hovering may be the highlight of their week.
- Some people would like to live life. They would like to reach out, to broaden their horizons and their experiences. Yet, they fail to embrace it because they are always worried about something. What will other people think? How does this make me look? What happens if I don’t succeed? What happens if I do succeed, will I be able to handle it?
This kind of person is very often envious of type 3, and will talk bad about type 1 and 3 people, because type 1 are too boring to know and type 3 have achieved that which they crave so badly but never will achieve.
These people are often found living with lots of travel brochures and other paraphernalia in their homes, but have never ventured further than the local Walmart (or Tesco’s for those on my side of the Atlantic) and their idea of true adventure is ordering a 47 instead of the usual 46 from the Chinese take away.
- Some people live life. They embrace life and all it’s challenges. They look at each new challenge as an opportunity and go after what is important to them in life.
They are not confined by the shackles of peer pressure or the worries perceived social standing. They chase what is important to them. They do it 110% and they are happy.
Strangely enough, as selfish as these people may sound in their quest for personal fulfillment they are often the people who are most kind, caring and generous, because they know the true value of happiness and achieving and want to share that with others.
Type 3 people are disliked by everyone, except other type 3 people (being generally happy tends to have that effect on others). With the exception that the loathing that extrudes from type 1 and 2 people is never expressed except in private, where they like to tear little strips off of the type 3’s.
Example: “You see him over there? Just sold his company for 5 million, but I heard that he’s a tight bastard that wouldn’t pee on you if you were on fire, and he’s supposed to be lousy in bed.”
As I said above there are shades of gray in all this, and I’m painting with a very broad stroke here.
I’m wondering what makes us a type 1, 2 or 3 person?
Is it environment, upbringing, genetic disposition or just plain will power (or lack of it as the case may be)?
Can we change from being one type of person to another? Can we shift up a gear so to speak?
(I know people who have, so that’s a yes, but your mileage may vary. I happen to know of type 3 who is now if the process of removing a type 2 from her life that almost pulled her down to the bottom. You know who you are, and I’m proud of you for getting out of there.)
Can we become so ingrained in a position that a type 3 can be pulled down to a lower level?
What do you do if you are a type 1 or 2 and really want to be a type 3?
Beside those subtle shades which exist between 1,2 and 3, is this old cynic missing any major people types here?
What type of a person are you?
And before you ask, yes I am that cynical tonight!