You’re An Attention Whore And You Know It

Attention Whore Svetlana Gladkova from Profy posted about “Blog Day” and some of the dirty little secrets bloggers hide/neglect/refuse to share with members of the non-blogging world.

One point that stuck with me was Svetlana’s reasoning behind why people blog:

Bloggers will usually claim that they blog for all kinds of reasons, including willingness to share their unique knowledge and experience with the world or hoping to make the world a better place. But I’ve been working in the blogosphere long enough to know that only a very small percentage of bloggers actually have some big reasons for blogging while the vast majority only blog hoping to get money, fame or some professional recognition – and more money eventually. I don’t like the fact that I’ve lost my idealism months ago and I’d really want to believe all the bloggers that claim they only want to do good but my experience shows I only know a couple of people who actually want to do good and do something good instead of only claiming so – out of hundreds of bloggers I’ve met.

Svetlana has it almost right. I’m going to go one step further and say that the real reason we blog, twitter, podcast and vidcast is because we are all narcissistic egomaniacs / attention whores / desperately seeking recognition.

Yes some of us are driven to make money but the medium through which we do it belies our need to have our ego’s stroked and inflated.

If you tell me that you write for yourself and don’t care who reads it, I’m going to tell that I can smell what you’re shoveling from 10 miles away. If you don’t want it to be read, or have a desire for it to be read, why put it online? Why not just type in a word document or makes use of dead trees and graphite and get it on paper?

If you’re telling me you’re doing it just to make money, I’m still going to tell you that what you’re shoveling isn’t smelling any sweeter as we all know that blogging is not the right racket to truly make money off. A side income perhaps, but a true income, well that’s beyond the capabilities, writing skill and personalities (face it most of us are just boring) to achieve.

Tell me that you’re sharing you’re experience and knowledge to help others and I’ll agree that it’s noble, while flipping you off and telling you that you’ve gone beyond offending my nasal passages at this point.

If you want to help others get involved with an after-schools program, get off your fat arse and go out and help the needy, teach, do youth work, but don’t try to tell me that your 2 hits a day site (you and your mom) is a selfless attempt to help people. You’re just boring, not worth of traffic and are trying to justify the existence of your pinprick of cyberspace.

So what does that leave? Fame, recognition, boasting rites among our peers? Can’t think of many other reasons myself. Attention Whore!

11 thoughts on “You’re An Attention Whore And You Know It”

  1. @pauloflaherty Since I don't get any attention, I must confess to being depressed and suicidal after reading your post. The stark realities of the hopelessness of my existence have been thrown into sharp relief by your deep analysis.
    My Death will be on your cynical hands… 🙂

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  2. I don't blog for myself, I blog for my amusement. I do care if people read it, I do get excited when google analytics says "hey, look, ten people stopped by to read your boring ranting and raving today! Don't you feel awesome about yourself now? Doesn't your life have more meaning?" Hey, I like attention as much as the next girl and I flat out admit that. And if somewhere along the line someone wants to give me some decent free crap, you can bet I'm grabbing that up too. Attention and free crap rocks my world.

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  3. LOL Paul, as usual I did not want to go and tell the entire truth (I am a blogger, after all, so I am not supposed to tell all the truth regarding this particular thing) but you have obviously done it for me here. I admit it: nothing feels better than a quote in NYT or Business Week 🙂

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    1. Nothing feels better than a quote in the NYT or Businessweek, or nothing feels better than *being able to tell people you got a quote in the NYT or Business week*? If we are being truly honest about an attention whore after all? 😛

      I completely agree with both of you that no one writes just for themselves. I can't say that high is the best thing in my life though. If I said getting a quote somewhere was the best feeling, I have a feeling Paul would raise an eyebrow or two, but then maybe that would be his own inner attention-whore reacting? 😛 He comes first, attention from others comes as a far second. 🙂

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  4. I’m not sure how your attention-seeking ways have eluded me in the past, but I am now watching and listening. (And I can only hope that you will reciprocate and start watching and listening to me, too! *hee hee* *link, link*

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